Passive Putdowns, Backhanded Compliments
A passive putdown or backhanded compliment is a way to test the social savvyness of the woman you are talking to, and to demonstrate that you are selective by not hitting on her.
Example
While telling a story to a group the woman you are interested in interrupts. You turn to her friends and ask them "Does she always interrupt when she drinks? So anywys we jumped onto the train and..."
It's important to not look for reactions when you pepper these comments into your conversation. If you do, you will come off as reaction seeking and this will only create unwanted tension between you and the target.
If you tease her, she will tease you back.
Your target (especially a particularly attractive one) will have a response to your passive putdown. Keep this in mind so you are not taken off-guard when she comes back at you with a putdown of her own. Don't let this derail you and always have a response in mind. EX. "Stop flirting with me".
If it hits to hard.
While the goal of the passive putdown is not to make her angry, occasionally you may find your putdown to have hit a little too hard. This can be particularly truthful if used on a target with low self-esteem. To take off some insult from a passive putdown you can follow it up by giving her back some value with a compliment.
Example Passive Putdowns
You're so outside the circle of trust.
Read on, Attraction Building Routines.
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