I’m going to jump back to the basics here because lately I’ve been seeing a reoccuring problem with an easy fix. These are three problem areas that help a woman reject you no matter what you have to say. We all get lazy sometimes but if you haven’t already taken care of these three basics you aren’t trying.
Teeth & Breath
There’s a saying out there that “if you can’t fix it, flaunt it”. Have a space in your teeth? Tell a funny story about it. Physical features that can’t be fixed make great stories that build rapport and create connections.
That said teeth are a main area that we all tend to look at when we talk to each other. Do you have yellow teeth? Brush your teeth more and buy some over the counter whitening strips. It is easy to recognize lack of care in teeth and it is worth the simple investment of time and money. Also pick up a bottle of mouth wash, the burning means you don’t have to worry about breathing death on her and she might even thank you for it.
Scent
Does this need an explanation? There are lots of products out there, invest in some body scrub, deoderarnt and a few different colognes to keep smelling good at all times.
Shoes
Shoes vary depending on the occasion and your style but new shoes get noticed and old shoes get shunned. It should be obvious that it’s time to let go of the sneakers with the grass stains and broken laces. Invest in something that defines your style and makes you feel comfortable and confident.
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A question I am asked a lot is “How can I tell when a girl is interested in me?”. Sure, answers like “when you sense it” or “when you two have a connection” are vague and simple enough to appease most people, but lets break it down a little further.
First off, a good frame of mind is to assume she is always interested you. Not in a way that you are crossing boundaries or laying all your cards on the table, but having a confident mindset will work in your favor.
Physical Signs & Actions That She Might Be Interested
- She touches you
- She whispers something
- She tilts her head playfully
- She plays with her hair
- She laughs at your jokes
- She holds eye contact
- She asks you questions
- She is generally just more open to conversation
What to do when you get these signs?
Keep the conversation going; listen and respond to her. Mastering kino touch is essential. Know the difference between a sexual guy (good) and a horny guy (bad). A sexual guy isn’t afraid to talk about a sexual topic or make a joke – he calls an spade a spade – while a horny guy is needy of sex and actions are driven because of it. By having a good time, incorporating touch and giving her subtle signs you are interested too you will find yourself taking things further, more often.
I’m fascinated with marketing and I feel lucky to be doing something I really enjoy. Lately I’ve been watching Eben Pagan’s (David DeAngelo) Get Altitude program for entrepreneurs.
I personally find a lot of parallels between the sales / marketing world and the attraction / seduction world.
As I watched one of the videos today something dawned on me. Eban brings up a study by a university that examined the factors of success by looking at the commonalities of top sales people. You can watch the video yourself but I’ll spoil it anyways. The number one commonality between all these successful salespeople was their speed of implementation. Speed of implementation is the time is takes between hearing about an idea to acting on an idea.
Researchers found that the most successful businesses and salespeople were regularly putting ideas into action immediately. Their speed of implementation was faster.
This mindset of implementing ideas faster in my own life feels somewhat counter-intuitive. The voice in my head says “lets think about this”, “lets weigh out pros and cons, make a list of benefits and side effects”, “let me run this idea past 2 or 3 of my friends to see what they say”. And then usually through deliberation and backwards rationalization the idea fizzles and never gets implemented.
What does this mean for creating attraction and meeting beautiful women?
A mindset focused on speed of implementation shoves a lot of the logic to the side – You know, the times when you are in your head and rationalizing with yourself that she probably has a boyfriend and you shouldn’t talk to her (or any other excuse). This is your mind coming up with a reason for not approaching or doing something that you know you really should be doing.
The mindset of implementing ideas faster is useful to overcome approach anxiety and encourage spontaneous behavior. Being spontaneous keeps life fresh and will have a lot of positive side effects. A good motto I like to say is “plan big and adapt”. The next time you are presented with an opportunity or an idea that can take you to the next level – even if it’s a little out of your comfort zone – take action!
If you don’t know, Vince is the guy who founded and co-hosts the Annual PUA World Summit with Johnny Wolf every year. This guy has been around a while and knows his stuff. We convinced Vince to take the time to tell us what he’s doing lately and some of his secrets in our most recent interview.
How does meeting women in the day, let’s say at a supermarket, differ from meeting women in a nightclub?
Day game has to happen fast, because most of the time there’s a genuine time constraint on her side, and in most case, keeping her too long works against you! The plus side with day game is that it is less expected than in a club…Ultimately, you must meet women anywhere…As one of our trainer recommended when asked what his favorite venue was, and he said…THE WORLD!!!
With day game, there’s also the fact that they often are in motion, so it is an art form to learn how to get them to stop and stay, and this is one of the things I specialize in, as personally, from my first official day of Pickup, I would always approach everywhere! on our Power Pickup series, we even have a “cross-walk” routine that works incredibly well!
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I went out tonight with some friends, 4 of us to be exact, all fellas to take a look at a new club Glow that was opening in the heart of our downtown. The scene was good, my friends consider me someone who is focused on work 75% of the time, and as a guy with a girlfriend I enjoy the networking aspect of going out. I’m involved with a number of projects locally and online so lately my inspiration for going out has been to meet other business people, the money makers of our city.
I live in Bellingham WA, which according to Google has a population of 67,000, so it’s nothing like the space needle city to the south because everyone here knows someone else and their friend. Anyways I consider the guys I went out with to be true friends like Briddick, co-creator of Attractology, whom I spend a lot of time diving into the ideas of social dynamics with.
So here’s what happened. As two of my guy friends are having great conversations with two separate women the other guys I am with begin to criticize them. Isn’t that how it always works? Criticize the people who are putting themselves out there and taking a risk?
The first thought that crosses my mind INSTEAD of criticism is: ”What can I do to help them succeed?”
This is a very important question to ask because someone who is comfortable helping someone else is comfortable in themselves. I’ll state that again, helping others succeed will ONLY happen when someone is comfortable with who they are. Women know this. My reaction was to walk directly up to one of my friends, let him introduce me and then continue conversation with the group naturally. Then when there was a break in the conversation I brought up how good of a guy my friend is, gave him an accomplishment intro and some social proof and stepped away.
That was all it took. Are you comfortable enough to HELP your friends out?
It easy when first getting into this to read everything there is to read. That’s what I did when I began, it started with Neil Strauss’ The Game and lead to an interest in David DeAngelo, posts on Fast Seduction and now have I accumulated material from most other Guru’s; some of which has been useful information.
Side note:
We’ve been compiling some guru interviews to share but that’s for another post.
See, I approached learning about attraction with a fairly solid belief system intact but also an open mind willing to learn from experience. I feel both of these were critical for success. Sometimes what I was reading would challenge my belief system and when this would happen I would have three options.
- Instantly accept what I was reading over my own belief system
- Instantly accept my own belief over what I was reading
- Go out with an educated open mind and learn from the experience
I continue to chose number three.
Bluntly put, guys that don’t succeed are either too gullible or too stubborn to go out and challenge their belief system with the experience necessary to progress. Success will come from the combination of learning AND going out and being social, networking and leading a dynamic life.
To improve you must understand that progression will happen by reading but also doing. Here’s how. Read enough material to understand and challenge some of your ideas and beliefs without getting overwhelmed. Go out and practice making note of what gets good results, and then when you hit a sticking point come back and figure out what you can do to improve next time WITHOUT dwelling on the negative. Mastery in any subject is a series of plateaus, persistence is essential.
That’s it for now, but as we move into 2009 no time is better to set some expectations and real goals. Here are some goal setting tips I was just reviewing for myself, I find it valuable to set both personal and career related goals.
- Determine what you want to achieve
- Put the goal in writing
- Set a time deadline for the attainment of the goal
- Develop a plan and work the plan
- Visualize a successful result
- Maintain a positive attitude
- Measure your progress and make adjustments, where needed
- Persist until you reach your goal
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