Once you are talking with a women, you want to start building attraction and getting her emotionally affected by you. This is can be done a multitude of ways. But no matter what you do, you have to display the characteristics of an attractive male. Look on any seduction site or ebook and they will describe to you “the way” which is basically “their” way and not necessarily the best description of an attractive male. After reviewing, creating and reinventing what it meant to be an attractive male, I found a great description written by Neil Strauss who calls it the LAS VEGAS qualities. In this description, he accurately breaks down the major qualities attractive individuals display.
L.a.s. V.e.g.a.s. Attributes (Neil Strauss)
L is for looks. Looks count to a minor degree but good grooming and a good sense of fashion will take care of this.
A is for adaptability. The ability to display your aptitude to adjust to new situations. A great mindset is to “plan big and adapt”.
S is for strength. Strength is not necessarily physical strength, but the ability to protect her. People look to you for what to do next. An example of strength not related to physical strength is this: Say you and a woman are having dinner together at a restaurant and something is wrong with the food she was just served. Someone displaying strength will get the attention of the server and ensure that the problem is resolved.
V is for value. You have be able to stand out from the next guy. Wear an interesting, unique item that resembles who you are, be interesting.
E is for emotional compatibility. You have to display you have an emotional side to you and you not simply a robot. So many guys are afraid to show any vulnerability because they believe it will make them appear weak or feminine. In reality, women love a man who can connect with them on a deeper, emotional level.
G is for goals. You have to display that you have a direction in life. That you are passionate about something. It doesn’t necessarily matter what, just as long as you are passionate about something.
A is for authenticity. You have to coincide who you really are with who you are externally conveying. Trying to be the super cool guy when inside you don’t feel that way is going to leak insecurity that people will pick up on.
S is for self worth. You have to be able to display that you really love yourself and accept yourself for who you are. Ok, so your probably wondering how to be all these things at once when first meeting a women. Well in fact, you don’t have to be all of these things right away, you just have to display them to women. This can be done through stories, teasing, fun games, KINO and other routines.
Attraction Building Routines
Here are some fun interactions that are more interesting than the barrage of boring questions every other guy is asking. We have put together some Attraction Building Routines.
Teasing girls is a great way to get attraction. When you tease with sarcasm, irony and playful insult, you are communicating to the female emotional brain thus are going to create feelings in her toward you. . Of course you must be careful not to tease too hard to the point where the girl/s are offended. Then those feelings you are creating are going to be negative and unproductive. This can be avoided simply by 1) keeping a playful, fun, non-threatening demeanor and 2) not waiting to see if you get a reaction from her/them. Seeking a reaction in any situation in Pick-up is a signal of neediness and can often be met with hostility and contempt.
Another great way to build attraction is using future projections. Future projection are short, off the wall, funny descriptions of what you could be doing with the set. Here is an excellent future projection.
Example: “… you are such a fun girl. But you know what, this just isn’t going to work. We’ll talk and totally hit it off. And knowing my funness paired up with your funness will like create this super vortex of fun power. And we’ll be able to go around dancing (start dancing hand in hand kino) like this and bring fun to wherever we go. But then people will start to catch on like ‘who are these superhero’s bringing all this crazy energy?’. And they’ll try to capture us and we’ll have to go our separate ways in hiding to avoid getting caught… and we can’t have that.”
When delivered right, they are fun and creative. They allow a window to physically touch them. And they plant an image of you and them in their minds thus further linking the “thought” of you with them.
The power of physical touch also termed Kino (short for kinesthetic) is by far the most powerful attraction tool you have. When you touch someone you are physically connected to them even if for a very short duration. It amps attraction as well builds comfort and trust between you and the person you are touching. It also demonstrates you are comfortable enough with yourself to touch others. And the best part is, is that it is extremely easy and applicable in any situation. Even when used alone, it requires no memorized routines or alterations of social dynamics. You are basically going to become just a naturally touchy guy who touches everyone. From the moment you open a set you can apply touch either through fake punching/hitting (playfully), through routines, through stories, group hugs, handshakes, arm around and the list goes on. As long as you your doing all the previous steps correctly, there is really no limit to amount of touch you can apply. In fact it is not uncommon to find a PUA making out with a girl in the first 4-5 minutes of meeting her. There are also a variety of routines that use KINO in a natural, non-creepy, fun way. Click here to check them out.
This is the concept of what the mainstream might call “playing hard to get” or push/pull. Once you have displayed enough value and the girl/s are giving you indicators of interest, you can verbally push the set away just slightly. This might be in the first 30 seconds or it might be 5 minutes in. It all depends on how much value you come in with and how early the group becomes receptive to you. Regardless, this is most easily performed with verbal language. You are going to drop in little Prize-bites like “your going to lose me here in a sec” “I don’t know if I can be seen with you guys.” ‘I’m way too high maintenance. “You’ve gotta wine and dine me.” “I never put out on the first date.” “Girls say I’m kind of a prude when it comes to hooking up.” “Buy me a drink before you hit on me.”(credit: Mystery) If she touches you, you can say “wow, hands off the merchandise, this shit ain’t for free.” (credit: Style). Saying anything that a high maintenance girl might communicate to a guy is a good Prize-bite. And what it will do is communicate that you are a prize and expected to be treated like one. As a result, the girl/s will start chasing you and fighting for your attention and affection. Once you’ve got your target girl pining for your attention, it is time to move into the comfort phase.