Comfort Building Routines
Building comfort is about really getting to know a woman and creating an emotional connection with her. You are also evaluating her to see if she meets your standards. These routines will not be successful simply by repeating them word for word. Presentation, attitude, humor and your willingness to listen, among other attributes will all play a role in how these routines are received. For consistent positive results, practice and learn from your mistakes.
Basic Qualification
In this bit you are demonstrating you are a man of character and you are also getting her to qualify herself to you.
You: You’re an attractive girl but there’s more to life than looks, as they fade with time. What I find attractive in a woman is drive.., sense of humor.. and loyalty.
Her: Really?
You: I am serious. What three things make you attractive to men… other than looks, money or your job?
Eliciting Values (By Style)
You: What is the experience you most enjoy doing?
Her: Dancing
You: What is the ideal scenario of you doing that thing? Describe it.
Her: When I was in a play last summer and received a standing ovation at the end.
You: So picturing that RIGHT NOW, (repeat her perfect scenario back to her and really exaggerate it), you’re dancing in front of a huge audience, everyone you care about is there to see how good of a dancer you are and the crowd erupts at the end of show. How do you feel at the moment? What emotions?
Her: It makes me feel accomplished and worthy (or however she truly feels)
You: So really, while I was asking you this, you smiled… and maybe it’s because I’m being a bit funny or weird or whatever.. but also, its because you could kind of feel that emotion right now, while we were talking about it. Can you feel it?
Her: Yea I can (or something similar)
You: So, even though your favorite experience is dancing, your core value is to feel accomplished and worthy. This is what is most important to you and will always bring you towards feeling happy with yourself. If you have to make a big decision in the near future, the choice that takes you towards feeling accomplished and worthy is the right choice. OK, so in 4 minutes we’ve fulfilled your quest for core value. You can die happy now. (*smile*)
Evolution phase shift (By Style)
From comfort to Kiss in 60 seconds. Breaking through kino.
Tell her that she smells good and ask what she is wearing. Lean in, brush her hair aside, and sniff her slowly, moving up from the shoulder to the ear. “Mmmm, that smells good. People don’t pay enough attention to smell. But you’ll notice how animals, before they mate, will always smell each other. Evolution has hard-wired us to respond to certain things. You are wired to respond when someone smells you.”
“It’s like when someone pulls the back of your hair. You’ll notice how lions, when they mate, always bite and tug at the end of each other’s mane, right here.” (Since I’m shaved bald, I’ll add here, “This is what I miss the most about not having hair”; if you have hair, say, “This is one of my favorite things”.) Then I run my hand up the back of her neck and grab a fist full of hair at the roots and pull it, downwards. She says “mmmm…” And I say “see.”
Then I talk about how “no one knows this, but the most sensitive places on the body are places that are usually hidden from contact with the air, like the back of the elbow (touching it) and knee (touching it). Any place where your body bends, twists, or folds, there are millions of sensitive little nerve endings that release endorphins . Then I take her arm, bend it a little, and erotically bite the area on the opposite side of the elbow (that crease where it bends). She usually gets the chills, and I have her ratify how good it feels.
[note for the less experienced] If you don’t know how to erotically bite a girl, learn before you do this. You want to take a big chunk of skin — not a little pinch! — and slowly and firmly slide your teeth together until they meet and release the skin. You may want to practice on your own elbow first.
After, I say, “But do you know what the best thing in the world is?…A bite…right…here.” And I point to the side of my neck. (Every now and then, I’ll add, that “this has to do with the fact that it is where the jugular vein is most exposed, and since most sexual fantasies have to do with submission and vulnerability, it sends all the fantasy signals flying.”) Then I’ll expose my neck and say, “Bite me right here” as if I EXPECT her to do it. Fifty percent of the time she will. If she doesn’t, I just turn away calmly (punish), wait a few seconds, and then turn back and repeat, “Bite me right here.” Usually here she will.
Half the time, her bite is lame. If so, I correct her and say, “That’s not how you bite. Come here.” Then I give her a good bite on the neck and instruct her to “try again.” This time, she ALWAYS does a great job.
Now you look her in the eye, smile mischievously/approvingly, and say, very slowly, “not bad.” Then glance down at her mouth, back up at her eyes, and…yes…finally…you…may…if you want…and if she’s ready…um…kiss!
Strawberry fields
A quick, simple cold reading routine. The answers are not what is valuable about it, it is the interaction. Remember to have fun. Because this is fairly sexual, this routine is best used to build comfort and not to begin a conversation.
- The Questions -
Hey, lets try something interesting! Imagine you are alone in a field, and see a strawberry field in front of you with tasty strawberries. There is a fence/gate around the field. How high is it?
Listen to and remember her answer.
Now you are in the strawberry field, how many strawberries do you take?
Listen to and remember her answer.
Ok, after enjoying those strawberries, how do you feel about the farmer who’s field you took them from?
The fence represents how easy she is to engage in sex.
The strawberry field represents how many guys interest her at once.
The represents how you feel towards someone after sleeping with them.
Roman Soul Gaze
There are many variations to this bit. This is an extremely powerful routine that incorporates eye contact, kino and deep rapport building. Use this with caution, it is very powerful.
You…
We’re going to try something. I just learned this, some say it’s extremely powerful but I just learned it so we’ll give it our best. Native Americans used to believe that the left eye was the window to the soul. Here, give me your hands.
She takes your hands down low.
Ok, while looking directly into my left eye we are first going to sync our breathing. So breath in
Take a moment to do this.
Breathe out. Ok, so still looking into my left eye focus on your periphery.
Take a moment to let her do this.
Ok now, I want you to picture a spot about a foot behind my head.
Ok so you are focusing on your periphery, that spot, and looking into my eye. So you have all these things to focus on. But in looking into my eye you might start to see an older… yet still beautiful me. You also might see my power animal, like a totem. I know it sounds weird but many people have had powerful experiences doing this.
Roller Coasters
Another interesting routine. Ask, listen, remember.
- The Questions -
- You enter an amusement park and you go to roller coaster line: How long do you wait to get on?
- You’re on the ride, going all around, what is feeling?
- Your car plunges into the splash pool at the end, what do you shout?
- Now you go to the merry go round, but the horse is broken, how you feel?
- Now describe the perfect roller coaster ride.. shape of track, feeling..
- The Answers -
- Amount of her desired foreplay.
- The feelings she anticipates regarding sex.
- What she screams when excited.
- How she feels when you don’t perform.
- Describes her ideal sexual fantasy.
Be slow and confident during this whole delivery, give her a moment to let her do this. Gauge her response for how long to draw this out, or cut it short. If you are repeatedly having problems, assess your delivery.
