Seeking praise, seeking to be liked and admired, seeking value from people is another way of saying “I’m not ok.  I need people to approve of me to feel secure”.  It is unhealthy for someone to be so needy of others giving them value just to make them feed good.  Repeatedly doing this will result in a lack of self love that will cripple someones ability to be happy being themself and meetings others.  

“Money doesn’t give you strength. It just keeps you comfortable while you experience your dysfunction. “

Ideally we must strive to be unaffected by positive compliments as well as insults.  Think of this as emotionally standing up straight, neither leaning in or out. 

I’m sure you’ve had this experience.

Compliments are validating.  Someone gives you a very sincere compliment and you feel good about it.  However, this can create an addiction to compliments or getting value from others.   When we are unaffected by praise and getting value from others, we externally will display we already have value.  When we truly know success, there is no surprise when good things come into our life. And of course when we receive value from others we will be appreciatively humble and sincerely say “thank you.”

It is similar to how a mega celebrity would respond to someone complimenting their looks.  How many times do you think a good looking celebrity gets complimented?  They know they are good looking and therefore they will simply say “thank you”.   I saw David Beckham (British American soccer player) on TV recently and that is exactly what he did.  He knows he is one of the most desired men in the world.  But when he receives compliments he humbly accepts them with a simple ‘thank you”.  He has enough value already but he is still polite and humble.  He is not emotionally leaning.  He stands up straight.

As an attractive man, your inner emotional state should parallel this.