Have you ever mustered up the courage to meet a women and within seconds of you opening your mouth, she gives you the “F%#@ off” speech?  Personally, I’ve been rejected loads of times and I can attest, there is nothing more ego shattering and confidence destroying.   Fortunately,  I’ve learned to deal with rejection from women and have come out on the other side where it has little to no weight on my personal well being. 

The truth is, in learning the game of attracting women, rejection is inevitable in some form or another.  You can’t simply bypass failure before you reach success.  You must take the risk of getting rejected.  Just like when you learn to become a great skier, you cannot escape the fact that you will fall down in the process of becoming good.  The same applies for meeting women.  In the process of learning how to become an attractive man, you will get rejected by some women.  But just like when skiing, you will learn from your mistakes and eventually get good. 

The thing you need to understand about women is that when they reject you, they are not rejecting you as a person.  They are rejecting the way you approached them, the way you met them.  Too many guys get this all wrong.  They assume that by a women not wanting them to stick around, they must not be good looking enough, intelligent enough, successful enough, or have a good personality.  This of course is 100% false. Tons of good looking, smart, successful, guys get rejected all the time.  It’s part of the game.  However, how they deal with it will determine their future success in this area.  

Guys who get good at this game understand one thing.  They understand that rejection and acceptance are more signposts of behavior than anything else.  If she doesn’t reject you then you did something right.  If she does reject you, you did something wrong. The important thing is that it’s always something you ‘did’ or ‘didn’t do’ and never something you ‘are’  or ‘are not’.  Guys who equate rejection or failure to something that’s permanent like who they are end up making that particular failure a part of their identity.  As a result they end up less confident and less assured of their ability to succeed and that further propels their non success.  This is why it is so important to understand that meeting women is nothing more than a social skill.   

There’s another way a lot of other guys handle rejection.  Instead of letting it personally bother them, they place the blame elsewhere.  They assume the woman who rejected them is a bitch.  They assume that she has a boyfriend.  Or they assume that there are other variables that influenced the rejection.   There are some pros and cons to this way of thinking.  The pro is that these guys aren’t letting the rejection get under your skin (too much anyway).  Thus when they go to approach again they aren’t as hesitant as someone who takes rejection personally.  The con is that they never take responsibility for failure and continue to make the same mistakes, ultimately failing to get better.  

Rejection is a part of this game that you will never fully escape.  You may come close to getting 100% of the girls that you meet, but you will never completely evade rejection and the truth is nobody will.  It is part of life and it never really matters how many times we get rejected by women.  It really only matters that you not take it personally and learn from your mistakes without dwelling on them.