How To Flirt
So we’ve all been there. You see that sexy barista in the coffeeshop or that cute receptionist you keep running into. But instead of a fun, flirtatious conversation you freeze up and go straight for the boring ‘default’ questions like “how are you?” or ”what have you been up to?” and the conversation ends with nothing more than a ‘well, see ya later.” This article will focus around making those interactions more flirtatious and fun. Because, who doesn’t want to have fun? That’s what I thought!
Flirt with the right body language
The first thing that makes a good flirter is his ability to use his body. Most importantly, when you converse with a women, be sure to make strong eye contact. Countless studies have shown that eye contact alone has the power to generate sexual attraction. This doesn’t necessarily mean you should you never break away from her gaze but don’t be afraid to look her in the eyes a little longer than you normally would. The next flirtatious body usage is the smile. Smiling is contagious, addictive and brings out positive emotions in the people in our vicinity. When you’re talking to a girl you’re trying to flirt with don’t forget to smile. This paired with eye contact can be very powerful. So use with caution.
Flirt by being playful
If there was an underlying theme of flirting, it would be playfulness. Flirting should always be kept light and fun. With attraction being a positive emotional response, recognize that the more fun you are to be around, the more she’ll gravitate towards you. I like to use the analogy of talking to a baby. When you talk to a baby, what you say actually has no relevance while how you say it does. Because a baby, can only read you’re emotional language, you naturally try and get a smile or laugh by changing the way you speak to ‘baby talk.” Conversing in a flirtatious way is no different. So remember, be playful.
Flirt with the tease
A part of being playful in flirting is teasing. Teasing in essence, is playfully poking fun of the girl for something. Generally with something she says or does, there is always something to make funu of. A good strategy for those who aren’t natural teasers is to really tune into what she’s doing and saying. Eventually she’ll display something that you can make fun of. Just remember to always keep it playful and light. You should never tease a girl about about something she’s overly sensitive about nor should you tease her for everything she says or does. Just pay attention, see how she responds and adapt your behavior accordingly.
Flirt with the ‘wrong response’
A great way to tease in a flirtatious way is to use an obviously wrong response when a women asks a question. For example if you’re in a bar and women asks if she can have a sip of your drink, you can calmly and seriously say NO. Then after a moment passes where she can’t tell if you’re serious or not, you crack a big smile and give her a sip. Another example would be if a women asks what you do for work, you could say ‘I’m a male stripper but I’m quiting to pursue my passion as a shepherd. There’s just something about sheep that gets me…Bahhhh” The key is doing all of this is to keep it serious, let the tension build and then just before she gets too confused or angry, release it with a big smile that lets her know you’re kidding.
Flirt with misinterpretation
Another tool for flirting is using misinterpretation. Anytime a women makes a statement or does something, you can misinterpret it and claim it’s something completely different than what she intended it to mean. For example if a women says “let’s take a shot!” you can reply with something like ‘yea right, you’re just trying find a way to take advantage me. I’ve got to tell you, I’m not that easy. You gotta work for it.’ And generally you can always find a way to misinterpret everything she says as hitting on you. Again, keep it playful and fun and you’ll get positive responses.
Flirt with touch
Possibly the most powerful tool in your arsenal of flirt tactics is touching. Touching also called kino, allows for you to connect physically, which when done right causes a very powerful emotional response . The great thing about touch is that creates both attraction and a sense of comfort. The key is to touch lightly and at the appropriate times. For example, if a women says something even remotely uncool, I might pat her on the shoulder and shake my head. An excellent way to use touch is to combine it with teasing so when you tease a women, you can soften the blow by touching her arm, putting it around her shoulder, etc. It should be light and you should never linger. Touching for more than a few seconds will create discomfort especially if you’ve just met the person. But use touch whenever you can.
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