I appreciate the response. The sad thing is that I do open up quite often in a routine less way. My professional life is great, I have many friends, am social but for the life of me I cannot get an attractive woman to date, have not had a date in months, cannot get numbers, emails no matter what I do. Its really frustrating. Everyone says “oh its personality’ – oh really? I have friends that have the personalities of bricks dating very attractive women, in fact one is dating a Bears cheerleader. What separates them from me? Well most of them make really good money, most are pretty tall (over 6ft – and you know that does help) and most are pretty good looking guys. If I gather with a group of them I am the life of the party and get most of the laughs but oh no they get the women on their looks and money…and me well I do ok for myself but at 5′7 and 40 years of age I sleep alone every night….

Thanks

There are so many bootcamps, and consultations that charge people an arm and a leg, and only brush the surface of what it means to be attractive. We learn XYZ on how to get the girl, and when it comes down to it, these routines rarely work, and are really just methods for getting us comfortable in different social situations with women that we may have steered clear of before. We then begin soaking up all of this knowledge, thinking that it will provide an answer for us and more often than not, it doesn’t.

Even though we recognize attractive body language, we are still unable to connect to the source that drives this attractive body language: that confident, fluid, and controlled posture. We can see it, but for us to actually do it, is another story. LIke machines we try to assimilate this body language into our own, but yet when we interact with women, we don’t feel like this body language looks or feels natural.

We recognize routines, and openers but do not connect to what makes all of these routines work; our voice is hesitant, the connection between what it is that we say and how it actually makes us feel seems inauthentic and often times is.

Gary, there is a reason that all of this external, and superficial knowledge doesn’t work. That is because we are trying to conform to something that we are not. We are behaving in a way that doesn’t connect to the source of who we are.

This can change though!

When you see a beautiful woman smiling while she’s reading a book, instead of going down a list of openers, find something natural to say, “Hey, you know I typically don’t notice this sort of thing, but you have a great smile. I was reading my newspaper and thought I’d come over and see what you were smiling about.”

The problem that so many people have is that they try too hard. Watch the Interview Series with Deidra and listen to what she says her “turn offs” are… She acknowledges that attraction stems from a place of being genuine, and that women, including herself, can tell when us men are trying too hard, her example is ‘the guy who looks like he took more time to get ready than she did.”

My advice to you Gary is to look within, where do you find happiness, what do you love about yourself outside of this dating world. How can you bring those qualities out into the world that you live in, this is the ‘Abundance’ that Briddick speaks of. It comes from within and comes from a place of giving; we have a genuine belief that core of who YOU ARE, can manifest anything that you want by putting all of your energy and an unconditional faith toward it, that even with frustration and discouragement, if you want something bad enough, a woman, there will be a woman that is right for you, and you just haven’t found her yet.

I imagine you have put your energy and faith toward this to an extent, and this why you’ve landed here on our site.

~Mason