Avoiding Friends Zone

“Let’s Just Be Friends”

A relationship stuck in friend zone is based on having comfort and trust with a woman, but lacking any ‘chemistry’ or attraction.  Some call this a platonic relationship and for some guys, it’s a reoccurring nightmare. It usually goes like this: You meet a girl and you two talk. You find out you have a lot in common and you really feel like you can trust her and talk to her about anything. You find her physically attractive and become attracted to her. This goes on for some time, you wait to have a physical connection. Finally you try to take it to the next level and she says “lets just be friends”.

In this situation, the development of emotional compatibility and trust happened first but she never developed attraction, similar to the relationships she has with her girlfriends and relatives. Building and creating comfort with a woman is great, but you must also be building attraction.

I can remember talking and hanging out with this girl. She was beautiful, we had a ton in common and we would hang out all the time. I liked her a lot. And so finally I brought up “being more than just friends” to her. I instantly got the reply “I think we should just be friends.” I can honestly say it was heartbreaking, humbling, and an out right blow to my ego. But thankfully, I finally realized what was happening.

I never took the time to build any attraction. I never gave her those feelings of “chemistry.” She saw me as she did any of her girl friends. And when I finally sprung it on her, she realized that more than friends meant a change in the relationship. A change that disagreed with her feelings. As a result, she rejected me by giving me the “let’s just be friends” spew.

It is an uphill battle to reverse her feelings for you. Let’s avoid getting there in the first place. If you often get stuck in friends zone, we’ve got lots of great articles on how to create attraction first and get her craving you.