Let’s face it, nobody likes to hit the town solo. Especially when you’re going out specifically to socialize and well, meet women.  We all could use a brother in arms  We all could use a Goose for our Maverick.   This is why it’s so important to have a good wing man.  To have a friend who knows not only how to succeed with women but how to succeed in helping his fellow man taste the glory.  Because what is life without a little sharing?  Below I’ve compiled a list of six qualities that make the best wingman:

They’re Motivated

A good wing man is always challenging his friend to get in there and go for it.  Similar to an athletic trainer, a wing pushes his friends to achieve the goals they want.  Of course, you want your Mavericks full support in this tactic.  Nobody wants help where they don’t think they need it.  So motivate based on their level of desire to be motivated.

They Pay Attention

When your Maverick has started engaged in interaction with a group of women and his buddy joins, , a good wing will always allow his main man to be in the spotlight.  As a wing, you always want your friend to shine and be the most important person in the conversation. At least for the first few moments where first impressions are being formed.  This means letting him control the tone of the interaction and giving him room to speak and tell stories. Jealous?  Don’t worry, he can be your Goose next time.

They Can Give Compliments

You should never kiss someones ass but playing the wingman, it never hurts to give your friend a little boost. A sincere compliment will make your friend’s percieved worth go up in the eyes of the ladies you’re interacting with.  Compare it to bragging except rather than you bragging to yourself, you have another person doing it for you.  Again, it doesn’t have to be over the top.  A simple “this is one of the best guys you’ll ever meet”  would suffice.

They Align With You

No matter what debates or arguments you’ve had in the past, when you’re wing is talking with women, always agree with him.  Or better yet, avoid disagreeing with him.  If you disagree with a friend in the presence of strangers, it takes value away from what he’s saying.  Also by disagreeing with your brother in arms it can kill the momentum and flow of the conversation.  So even if he tries to tell them The Notebook was a good movie, swallow your pride, bite your tongue and nod.

They Give Support

Not every interaction flows the way you would like and sometimes, your friend may need some direct assistance. Any time your Maverick hits a rut and allows a lull in the conversation, make it a point to step in and keep it going.  This could mean quickly relating to something someone said, telling an unrelated story of your own or simply asking a question that would allow your Maverick to regain his step.  “Hey, did you guys hear about the crazy fight outside?  Well check this…”

They Deflect Friends and Make Their Own

Often times, women will travel in twos.  There is nothing significant about this except for the fact that if your Maverick is talking with his Maverette, it leaves her friend alone by herself.  You may not think of this as a problem, however when the best friend is looking bored and lonely, it puts a subtle pressure on the Maverette to go back to talking with her friend.  This could mean the end of the interaction and the death of a romantic relationship. The solution to this dilemma is simple: While your Maverick is talking with his girl, no matter if you like her or not, deflect the bogey by engaging the ‘friend’  for as long as he needs.  Sorry, dude, sometimes you have to take one for the team. But remember, doing this alleviates any pressure the Maverette may have to rejoin her friend.