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Part 1: How to meet people in a tech...

Part 1:  How to meet people in a tech world

More and more the way to meet people is becoming fragmented.  Our time is split between so many things, our phones, our email, our Netflix obsession, etc… Who’s got time to go out and meet people when there are a multitude of ways at our fingertips.  I’m talking about ONLINE DATING BABY!!  Let’s boil down chemistry […]

Why Hire a Dating Coach? (and how to ...

Why Hire a Dating Coach? (and how to pick out a good one…)

Why a dating coach?  I’m always interested in how people come to the conclusion that they feel the need to seek out a dating coach.  Is it a singular incident that pushes them to pull up Google and type in “dating coach,” or is it a culmination of frustration with the whole process that has […]

5 Things You Do That’s Steering...

5 Things You Do That’s Steering the Opposite Sex Away

We talk a lot about first impressions here at Attractology. There’s no getting around it, a first impression is the physical exterior that makes a statement about who you are (or who you might be) as an individual. Is your exterior telling people what you’re intending to say? Here are five things you may be […]

It’s Not You…. It’s...

It’s Not You…. It’s Me.

The bottom line is this: rejection, like confrontation is hard. No one wants to hurt another’s feelings. No one wants to blatantly say, “I’m just not that into you.” We prefer to speak with our actions. (After all, aren’t they louder than words?) Dating is tricky enough as it is… Finding someone you’re attracted to, getting around to expressing interest, sparking friendly banter, scheduling the first date, etc… We forget sometimes that finding a relationship is even harder. It’s hard to find that person you’re willing to continue the song and dance of dating with and invest in something deeper. More often than not, you’re going to strike out. I’m not trying to be harsh here. I’m just setting the stage.  With these odds stacked up against a first date, I don’t typically give a pairing the benefit of the doubt. I go in as a pessimist, assuming this may be the only time I see the guy I’m out with. This way, if I do hear from him again and/or we go out again, it’s a pleasant surprise. Not an expectation.  No one should expect that good conversation and a mutual admiration for the house pinot means love at first sip. There are always more elements at play. Like going into a job interview, you may feel like you did all your research, nailed the questions they asked, and are perfect for the role. At the end of the day, sometimes it just doesn’t work out. The role was offered to someone else that may have had more targeted experience, a better connection with the hiring manager, or was willing to take the lower salary. Sometimes your date will feel, for whatever reason, the chemistry is simply not there. If and when this occurs, signs will begin to pop up. Less communication. Fewer initiated texts, more monosyllable responses, less interest to commit to future plans. Learning the language of dating also means learning the language of rejection. If someone isn’t actively seeking out your time and attention, you’re probably not a priority for them. That’s not to say that a few texts here and there can’t lead to another date. Sometimes the opposite will even occur and you’ll encounter people who are very communicative with their interest or lack thereof. But the majority of the time it’s subtle language that is going to do the talking. Learning to pick up on these hints will help you get a clearer message of  someone’s level of interest in you.  Letting go is the only way to get anything sometimes.  So don’t feel too badly about letting someone down.  It’s just part of the game.

Fun vs. Fulfillment

Fun vs. Fulfillment

We are all searching for something.  For everyone, it’s something different, but I think it can be boiled down to two things: fun and fulfillment.  Let me explain.  We live our lives searching for fun, to have fun times, fun experiences, just creating fun memories.  Stories that will serve us for the rest of our […]

What He Thinks/What She Thinks Series...

What He Thinks/What She Thinks Series:  Is it OK for a girl to ask a guy out?

Is it OK for Women to Ask Men Out? On a First Date What he’s thinking: (By Tyler) Of course it’s OK for the girl to ask the guy out.  This isn’t the 1950’s.  However, there does need to be a protocol observed by both parties.  Due to the natural wiring of a man, we […]



    Friends, after a brief hiatus, Attractology is back full time to provide you with tools and philosophies to help you feel more confident and attractive everyday.  Does that sound good? Also, thank you for being a part of our community, we really appreciate all of you. OK, here is a topic that I’m […]

Reducing Flakes: The Art of Seeding

Reducing Flakes: The Art of Seeding

In last weeks article on “When to call a girl and what to say” we briefly touched upon a specific component of conversing and setting up a date called “The Art of Seeding.” This week we will be further exploring the concept with the theory behind it and how it works. Before we begin, it […]

When to Call Her and What to Say

When to Call Her and What to Say

So you’ve gone out to a high class lounge for the evening with a group of good buddies. Midway through the evening you started talking to a beautiful woman and were successfully able to captivate her interest and and then ultimately get her number! All the years spent on learning the fundamentals of attraction are finally […]

Engage-Disengage-Reengage (EDR) Techn...

Engage-Disengage-Reengage (EDR) Technique

Last week we explored How to Avoid the Player Vibe When Approaching Women and there was a routine mentioned called the Engage- Disengage-Reengage (EDR) Technique which can be used to avoid ‘hitting on her’  and instead allow you to just seem like a fun, attractive guy. This week we will be further exploring the Engage-Disengage-Reengage Technique, the theory […]

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